So at the suggestion of my sister I am going to atempt to do this a little more regularly - I should note that my sister is just hating her job right now and would find any other outlet for any of us to make money so she could quit and live a comfortbale life...Whatever...works for me...
So FWB - friends with benefits - fact or fiction - u tell me...When does it stop being FWB and become more even if it is short of a relationship? Are men that stupid or shallow that they can't figure that out?
Here's the story - met a guy- began an FWB relationship - it was fine, called here, called there, no strings attached, no expectations...Guy's living situation (not wife or ex or anything dramatic like that) changes and he begins to break on eof his very own cradinal rules - "no sleeping over girls house". Girl doesn't think much of it - Guy has another place to go and stays with girl a few nights a week. Guy is in rough shape at this time due to unforeseen circumsntacnes at hishouse. They are still friends, they are still getting the benefits, guy is just over more...
Well, over more turns into over more. Over more turns into meeting guys friends and parents. Over more turns into spending guy's days off with him...Over more means eating dinner with guys parents once a week...A toothbrush, deodarant, DVD's, a drawer, laundry, pans, food....3 calls a day like clockwork...Yeah over more...Over more turns into 7 months later....
Before the clusterfuck (u had to know there was one - why else the blog?), Girl goes on vacation, guy calls and texts her - did I mention girl asked guy to come over once in 7 months? ONCE. Did I mention girl can still count on two hands how many times she's called guy in 7 months? Yeah - guy did all the actions...
But I digress, Girl goes on vacation and is not calling or texting guy. He calls and texts her. Guy tries to switch out of work to pick girl up from airport. Guy comes over after work when girl got home and proceeds to stay every night until the clusterfuck...
So far - where do you stand? Seems like more than FWB no? Stay tuned....
1 comment:
See girl, we need to treat men like babies. I'll explain. When I was growing up my wild immigrant family ate some questionable outlandish shit. Like tripe, octopus, rabbit etc... To get the lil ones to eat it they said it was "chicken". Everything was "chicken", because we were comfortable with "chicken". "Chicken" didn't scare us. And as we grew up, we knew we weren't eating "chicken" but we continued to call it that because we felt safe with that label. Now, the man in question has most definetly crossed from FWB to a relationship but, as with most men, he still needs to call it FWB because that label doesn't scare him. He's comfortable with that. Men need to handled and treated with the same care we would use with a 5yr old or a skittish deer on the front lawn. They scare easily...This one however, he's extra special...lol. I think he got scared like that skittish deer and just started flailing helplessly, hence the dating and total disregard for your feelings.I think his own emotions scared the hell out of him. U didn't tell him it wasn't "chicken", his own heart did and he had a terrible reaction... He'll figure it out or he won't but You will still be the fun fearless female U have always been with or without him...something else that scares him I'm sure. Luv Ya xoxo
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